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Well here we are – it’s 2013 and I although I haven’t written on my blog in over a year, it seems that somehow the amazing world wide web has continued to bring people to my site.  As I received my blog stats via email, I started to reflect on the past – when I started this blog, why I started it, and why I stopped writing.

I think it was a mix of things… I got busy (coaching)… I got very busy (moved, got engaged)… and then I got even more busy (work, travel, wedding planning).  In fact, being busy is the exact reason I have for stopping most things in my life that I probably should keep doing.  I’m not saying that writing a blog should continue forever,  but there was something very important and perhaps cathartic in expressing my thoughts, feelings and ideas.  Maybe it was simply creating something that I could reread, or getting thoughts out that I had pushed away in the process of being productive.  but I think that more likely, it was taking a moment for myself- to leave the outside world for just a moment, and create a little world by myself in a small cafe.

I’ve tried to fill the gap with things like yoga, running and lazy days watching Madmen, but in some ways these relaxing endeavors have taken a life of their own and have become sweat sessions at Bikrams Yoga, half marathon training, and a little too much online shopping to find outfits like Betty and Joan.  It’s funny how “productive” these little moments for myself have become!

So here find myself in another cafe being “unproductive”… and it feels awesome!  As I sip on my americano, and watch the misty rain drizzle on the window, I can’t help but reflect on this past year of successes, and announcements, triumphs and tears.  One thing is very clear- it was an awesome year!  It wasn’t perfect, but I grew and I changed.  And to be honest, it’s taken me till Jan.1, 2013 to really appreciate and think about that.

My resolution next year is to take all of my goals and ambitions and plans and relationships, and find ways to create moments to reflect on and appreciate what is happening with them right then.  I’m not sure exactly how this will change any of the outcomes, and maybe it won’t… but I do think that in the moments of craziness and busyness, if I deliberately take time to reflect, I will be reminded to stop, breathe, and notice that there is goodness and beauty in all of it.  The wins and the losses.  Because at the end of the day, it’s all about learning and growing.


I’ll leave you with an amazing little 5 step program! A daily resolution of sorts 🙂


The Five Reiki Principles



I – Just for today, I will not be angry.

Anger at others or oneself or at the whole world, creates serious blockages in one’s energy. It is the most complex inner enemy.

Letting go of anger, brings Peace into the Mind.


II – Just for today, I will not worry.


While anger deals with past and present events, worry deals with future ones. Although worry is not always a negative phenomena, endless worries may fill one’s head, and each one bores a small hole in one’s body and soul.

Letting go of worry, brings healing into the Body.


III – Just for today, I will be grateful.

Be grateful from your hart inward. Inner intention is the important element in this principle. Simple things as thanks, forgiveness, smile, good words, gratitude can improve others life and make them happy.

Being thankful brings Joy into the Spirit.


IV – Just for today, I will do my work honestly.

Support yourself and your family respectably, without harming others. Earn a respectable living, live a life of honor.

Working Honestly brings Abundance into the Soul.


V- Just for today, I will be kind to every living thing.

Honor your parents, honor your teachers, honor your elders.

Being Kind brings Love into the Will.


Happy New Years and all the best in 2013 – something tells me that this year is going to be a special one…Unknown-1


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Okay, so I was hanging out with a few friends this past weekend in Whistler, and I realized something….we all know “The Best” ________________ (fill in the blank).

So, rather than going out trying out a million different products, hair stylists, waxers, dating sites, hole in the wall mexican restaurants and makeup, I was thinking we would all give our list of “Best Of’s”! So, feel free to copy and paste my categories, OR, if you have a category of your own, please share share share (this is only as good as YOUR advice!) and make a difference for everyone who reads this – let’s spread all the BESTS in our lives 🙂

Here is mine:

Best Makeup trick: Mistura.com. For some reason, this makeup takes away the residuals of a hard night out, and makes you glow without sparkle or shine. Truly one of the greatest makeup tricks I’ve seen and worth every penny

Best Hair Product: I’ve tried it all but Moroccan Oil wins. Smooths hair without weighing it down or making it greasy.

Best Hair Trick: I’m a fan of anything brazilian…  But the brazilian blowout is a miracle. Check it out and if you have any inkling to try it, go for it! Kind of pricey, but for me well worth the hours I save doing my hair

Best Wax: Get your wax at Sugarbox – Might be that they make it feel totally cool to be in pain for 20 mins!

Best way to burn 500 calories: Ummm… other than the obvious 😉 Okay, crossfit. Hands-down greatest workout ever and never lasts more than an hour.  Do it at a crossfit gym or they post free workouts online at http://www.crossfit.com or http://www.crossfit.ca

Best Place to Grab Some Grub: I love The Eatery Sushi Bar.  Cool vibe, great people and an owner that makes you feel like you are hanging out at a wicked dinner party at his place.

Best TV show no-one else seems to watch: For sure this MTV show called “If you really knew me”.  Makes me cry everytime – just so cool how looking at life with a different perspective can change the world… check it out!

Best Nutritional Tip: Coconut oil. Miracle food!  Google it and you’ll find out why 🙂

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Sometimes I really question whether or not I should share this blog with everyone.  Yes, I know it’s out there, it’s public and for that reason it’s fair game, but there have been moments where I realize that my words will precede me and it could very well change how a friend, a family member, or a new boyfriend may see me.  I know I get personal and every time I’m about to press “publish” I think twice, and I wonder I’m really ready to put some of my deepest thoughts, insecurities and learnings out for the world to see. 

So why do it, right?  Though I may realize at a later date that there are more reasons than the one I’m going to give, at this point I feel motivated and inspired to blog because it keeps life real for me.  In writing, I’ve found a part of me that has gone undiscovered until now.  And though I have a knack for being to talk my way into or out of anything, as the people that know me best  can definitely attest to 🙂   by writing it seems to take all the potential bullshit out of the equation.  If there was fabrication or any untruths behind my words, I think you would all see through me because I can’t hide behind a smile.  So at the end of the day, this blog serves as a way for me to say it like it is – the good, the bad, the beautiful and the seemingly ugly.

When I decide to write it usually comes from a conversation or situation that intrigues me, confuses me, inspires me.  For me this happened yesterday and though I have been creatively trying to figure out how to blog about it without getting personal, I’m abandoning ship because I think it would take 2 sentences for you all to realize I was talking around the real subject!

So today I’m going to talk about love 🙂  I know that I need to talk about it because in the past 2 days, 3 people have separately told me that the one thing missing in my life is that I don’t have someone to love.  To be honest, I don’t know where the comment in coming from, but obviously I’m putting something out there.  I can’t think of a time in the past 10 years when I have been less interested in finding “the one”.  I feel SO fulfilled in my work life having had an unbelievable Olympic experience in Vancouver and getting ready to launch a new swimwear line with www.vivvos.com.  I am focused and ready to play beach volleyball, my relationships with friends and family are thriving and I don’t know how else to put it but that even though things are far from perfect, I am really happy and I love my life.  Every part of it.

And yet their words rang true.

Is that because we are just simply meant to be with another? That it is just natural to share our life and our heart with someone?  Is it an illusion that we can do it on our own, be independent, be free?  Will we always want that connection and will our accomplishments be dulled by the fact that when we turn around to celebrate, we are on our own? 
Or is it just that our society has drilled into us the fairytale of love and a soulmate?

I was called out today by a friend – he spelled out what I have never said aloud.  That I believe that when I meet the right person it will be an instant connection and I will just know. The act of choosing to love someone and having that love grow out of friendship was not really an option when it came to The One.  This elusive romance was different, special and totally unlike anything I’ve experienced, and for some magical reason, I would just recognize the moment as if every other moment was simply a build up to it.  So when a new guy doesn’t bring this to the equation, for me it’s been “on to the next”.  And that’s pretty much how my dating life has been.  If they don’t have the whole package right away, I never give them a chance to become that package.   Don’t get me wrong, I see the holes and the fallacies in this!  But it’s hard to change the way I think because at the end of the day, I believe in chemistry and chemisty is elusive and mysterious… it’s a perfect excuse as to why things don’t work out because come on, who can argue with chemistry?  😉

And remember that friend of mine, Stacy?  Well, turns out the fairytale is in full effect for her.  And it seems crazy, and wonderful and dangerous and perfect.  And there’s a piece of me that is still hoping I have a similar story, even if I have the chance to explore something really great with a guy who is really great. 

And I guess just one question remains to be answered… what will I do?

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